GivePosted: December 7, 2014
I write tonight with sad news and a plea. On Friday morning, Jess, a woman from my hometown, was killed along with her younger brother in a car accident. She was a single mother of three children, whom her sister now plans to raise. I want to ask you to click here and help them if you can.
Jess and I were in totally different circles in high school. We’d gone to elementary school together, too, and while we weren’t especially close then either, she came to my birthday parties and I thought she was pretty and nice. But the strangeness that is Facebook brought us together in the past few years. She was a reader of this blog. And I so enjoyed her frequent, feisty, funny status updates. She was a firebrand of lefty politics who took no shit and always said exactly what she thought. She was funny and acerbic and whip-smart. She was a fiercely loving mother who was proud of her children and truly enjoyed them. She was a powerful advocate for the health of her daughter with epilepsy. Jess finished her associates degree this spring and had just begun nursing school, a goal of which she’d dreamed for a long time. She was rightfully proud of what she had accomplished on her own and was excited to begin the next part of her journey. But then her father became seriously ill and she and her family moved to West Virginia (from Worcester) to care for him. She was just settling in there when she and her brother (whom she’d helped raise) died.
I hadn’t spoken to Jess for probably twenty years. But she’s been on my mind almost daily in the four years or so we’ve been Facebook friends, which is the odd thing about this whole Internet friendship business. She’s supported me through Das Big Boy’s challenges and triumphs, and I hers with her daughter and school. So to have her light extinguished when she has children who depend on her, so many who love her, and when she has accomplished so much and was set to accomplish more is heartbreaking. I might never have seen her again, but knowing she is gone hurts. I will miss her.
Be well. Be safe. Love each other.